Sunday, October 10, 2010

The sad part of life...


Life throws us many challenges, both good and bad. Whilst my family has experienced a number of these in our lives, we recently went through a devastating experience. A few days after my last post {just over a month ago}, I went for a routine check at our obstetrician only to find that at 23 weeks of pregnancy, our little baby girl had passed away suddenly. Words cannot describe the days that followed as I was induced that night and gave birth the next day. We named her Ella Skye and she was laid to rest a week later at a beautiful & simple service. The staff at the Mater Private Womens Hospital {in Brisbane} were absolutely amazing and the support provided was second to none.

We have been so fortunate to have had amazing support from our families, work colleagues and friends and have gained immense strength from them and also from each other. Life has been hard since then but we are working through the healing process and will come out the other side even stronger than before.  

I have missed blogging and seeing what everyone else is up to. I will be back {I'm not sure how often} but will endeavour to catch up with all of your blogs soon.

Lots of love,
Kelly
xxx


Image from here.

45 comments:

  1. Kelly, that is so awful.. I am so so sorry for your loss. I know that you will have no special memories of your dear little angel which does help me ( i lost my son when he was 3yrs) and I just cant imagine how it is when you dont get to `meet`your baby.
    Dont rush into anything or let anyone tell you how to feel, or how to deal with your grief; its a very personal thing. Just take your time and look after yourself..
    Laura c xxx

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  2. Oh Kelly, so sorry for your loss. Nicolexx

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  3. Oh my goodness. I am so very sorry to hear your devastating news. My heart absolutely goes out to you. You are in my thoughts. Take care to rest and recuperate your mind and soul.

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  4. I am so very sorry to hear your sad sad news. Thank you fore sharing it with us though as we all only wish you the best and send you our support in any way we can.

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  5. I can't comprehend your loss and am so sorry that you are going through this.

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  6. Kelly, I don't know what to say except that you are very brave and I wish only good things for you into the future. Take care of yourself.

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  7. Kelly, I'm a new follower - found you via Laura @ my summerhouse. Just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts. xxx

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  8. Sorry for your loss...
    There are not many words to say...

    XOXO

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  9. bless you. please know our thoughts are with you and your family. wishing you healing and peace...

    love, Donna

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  10. I'm so sorry. God bless you. Kisses

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  11. Kelly this is such incredibly sad news - I'm thinking of you. Leigh

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  12. I have just found your blog & think it is lovely, but my how sorry I am for your loss.

    Your daughter has a beautiful name. I am so glad you have strong & healing support people around you, take care.

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  13. One of the strange things about this virtual world is that sudden silence can mean so many things, generally either an unexpectedly busy period or a terrible sadness such as you've had. Thank you for sharing the trauma you and your family have been through. I'm so sorry for the loss of ella skye.

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  14. You and your family are in our prayers. Hang in there.

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  15. Hi Kelly, am so sorry to hear that this has happened. Its all too common unfortunately once you hear peoples stories. Ella Skye will always be your daughter no matter what. Hugs, Mel xxx

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  16. Kelly, I'm so sorry for your loss. I would never have understood how devestating this loss could be until a very close family member of mine had the same experience at full term a couple of years ago. I have to say that as an aunt for the first time it really changed my life for ever. It brought our family together. Ella Skye is a beautiful name. She will always be with you. Take care.

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  17. Kelly I am devastated for you. I cannot imagine what you have gone through and my heart goes out to you and your family. I wish you all the best for the future. Thinking of you Sandy xx

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  18. I am so sorry for your loss. I know it must be hard for you and your family. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers. Take care.
    ~Debra
    Blog: Capers of the vintage vixens

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  19. Sending you lots of love. Take Care of yourself and take as much time as you need. When a loss occurs in our lives, we are often expected to hop back to it. I think, in some ways, that it is only then prolonged. It is ok to be sad. Tricia www.cafetrix.blogspot.com
    “Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.” Thich Nhat Hanh

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  20. We were all so shocked and saddened by what hapenned Kell. The girls and I are here for you as always.

    Lots of love,
    Anna
    xo

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  21. OH NOOOO, I am so , so sorry for your loss!
    Please take good care of you! I have no words...

    Northern Light

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  22. I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. Even though I don't know you personally, my thoughts are with you and your family.

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  23. Oh Kelly, I have no words other than to send you strength, and to let you know that my thoughts are with you and your family. K xx

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  24. My heart aches for you and your family. Mig

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  25. Very, very sorry to hear of your sad news.
    All my positive thoughts go out to you during this difficult journey you have ahead of you.

    ~ Clare x

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  26. I am so blown away by all your amazing comments - thank you to each and every one of you xxxx

    I have tried to write back personally to all of you but still don't know how to reach those 'noreplycomment' bloggers - but thank you to all of you.

    Kelly xxx

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  27. Kelly,
    I shed a tear for you last night when I read your post. I started to type but didn't think what I had to say would mean enough.
    But I'm back. Tearing up again.
    Sending all my love to you and your husband. Only time will help mend the pain. Your bubba will always be part of your family.
    xx
    Sharnel

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  28. So so sorry to hear this news....what a devasting loss. Thinking of you. XO KG

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  29. Kelly

    I am very sorry to hear this sad news. Thinking of you. Take care.
    Lots of love
    V

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  30. Hi Kel,

    Glad you have surfaced and are back to blog world. I told you the bloggers would all help you with their support.

    Peace XX

    Bridget

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  31. So, so sorry for your loss Kelly, time is an important healer...you will feel better soon, I promise. Glad to have you back...
    xx

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  32. Oh, Kelly, I somehow missed that critical post. As a new follower, I haven't really got to 'know' you yet but as a fellow mum of 3 under 5 who has experienced my own tragedy, I really feel for you. Hang in there. Life may seem a blur, an unimportant detail at the moment, but you will keep waking up to start a new day. Some day you will feel a little less pain. Sending you a Hobart hug J x

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  33. Oh, I am so very sorry!
    My thoughts and prayers are sent your way!

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  34. ~*I am so sorry to hear of your loss Kelly..Now you have a little angel waiting for you..Hugs~ Rachel ~*

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  35. Another message of love to you an your family!
    Hang in there, recover and some day the sun will come up again.
    There is a reason for everything, sometimes we can not see it, but it's there!
    There will be happiness again.

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  36. Kel I've been anxiously watching your blog for some weeks, knowing how extremely difficult it was going to be for you to share your so sad news with your blogger friends.
    As always you amaze me and I'm so proud to be your Mum

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  37. I am really sorry to hear about that and I can only imagine how difficult it must be to process. I lost a baby mid pregnancy and that was difficult enough. I am more than confident you have the support to come out the other side. My love and prayers are with you also. Michelle

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  38. So sorry for your loss Kelly, take care of your self.

    xox
    Sarah

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  39. Love for you de Portugal!
    Maria Filomena

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  40. I have just caught up with your sad news Kelly. So sorry to read of your loss. How unbelievably painful and unfair life can be. Thinking of you both as you grieve together one day at a time.
    Thank goodness for supportive family and friends.
    Angex

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  41. So sorry to hear of your devastating loss Kelly! I've been through this too so understand your pain. Thinking of you. Tracey xx

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  42. I've been a longtime follower but am not sure if I've ever commented. I was about to say how much I love the mini subway tile and then the title of your post below it caught me eye. I couldn't believe what I was reading. I'm so very sorry for you loss. What a beautiful name...Ella Skye. I cried reading your post and then again reading your mom's comment. Thinking of you...xoxo

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  43. Kelly I was said to see your post a couple of months ago. I just recently went into pre term labour and lost our little boy at 21 weeks. It is such a devastating loss but through all the pain it does somehow make us all stronger. I wish you all the best for the future and your little angle will always be with you.

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